I suppose this is a rant

[Drarok]

Hi everyone.

Bit of a ****storm over this way this week.

WeeJ has split up with me after almost 4 years of being together, because she's "In love with" my "best mate" Javen.

And she's been round his today, most likely doing the dirty deed just seconds around the corner from my house.

You think you know people, and they **** all over you like this.

So, anyone in need of a slightly damaged bloke? :(

(Damaged? Unterstand here (http://drarok.com/gallery/Car-Crash))

[andyf]

That's an extremely battered looking car - I'm assuming you were driving or riding shotgun in it? You ok?

[Mamacita]

Holy **** that looks terrible - heart goes out to you about weej :<

[Culture]

That is very poor, my sympathies for both.
Your better off without her though, if she jumps like that from one to the other then she will do it again and will do it to Javen.

Women are often a pain in the ass.

[Drarok]

It's pretty harsh of a so called mate, after almost 4 years, he knows how I feel about her :(

[Boffykins]

Hugs to you mate, you know where I am

[Drarok]

In a galaxy far, far away? :)

[LadyU]

I sympathise with your current situation and I know it's hard when you split up but looking on the positive side you are single again and can start to look for someone new who will appreciate you more...

huggles

[Drarok]

that's gonna be rather difficult. I don't know anyone, and I'm really not the type to pick a girl up in a bar.

Hmmf. :/

[andyf]

Seriously dude, how are you after that crash? If you WERE the driver, it looked a pretty bad place to be in.

[Drarok]

Indeed I was the only person in the car. Railway bridge attacked me...

I don't remember what happened, which is probably for the best, really. I have to cross that bridge every day to get to work.

I have a scarred arm. Nothing major. I was incredibly lucky.

I also have damaged muscles across my chest/arm area. They're still not 100% now.

[Baroness]

I don't know you, but that crash looks nasty, so glad you're ok and hard luck about the other shiz - hope you move onwards and upwards, Drarok :)

[KingDaveRa]

S*it dude!

Thats one hell of a smash up!

At least you're pretty much OK though.

As for the relationship thing - well, life sucks. So you have a little wail, feel sorry for yourself for a bit, then say 'up yours world!' and get back on with it.

Like I'd know about such things mind :rolleyes:

[Drarok]

I'm at a bit of a loose end at the minute, dunno what to do with myself. Between my best mate and my bird, all my weekend time was taken up.

Now those two are prolly spedning very intimate time together, I dunno what to do! :(

[Afty]

This may not sound like the best idea, but I promise you, the best thing you can do right now is to grab some friends, go out, and get laid. Pronto :)

[Drarok]

Bit difficult, mate.

I can't pull random hoes, never have done.

And me and Mingtea went to the pub saturday - I really wasn't in the mood to drink. 3 Pints all night!
But the band that was playing were good.

[Aardvark]

Send the MPUK posse round for a night out with the express mission of getting Drarok laid as step 1 of the recovery process :)

You always seemed a nice bloke to me, what do women know eh? I mean REALLY? :)

[Lucifa]

Originally posted by afty
This may not sound like the best idea, but I promise you, the best thing you can do right now is to grab some friends, go out, and get laid. Pronto :)

Do that.

Originally posted by drarok
Now those two are prolly spending very intimate time together, I dunno what to do! :(

And don't think about that.

The first few weeks will be the hardest, just go out as much as you can and try to take your mind off it. The more you are around other people the better.
After those first weeks it does get easier, slowly but surely.

[Drarok]

As stated - very few people around here to get drunk with.

And there's NOWHERE to go around here.

[Killy]

you could always arrange a night out, i'm sure you could round enough of us up ;)

[Aardvark]

You'll be amazed how many women that suddenly become interested in you when you have a bunch of mates with you going on about how you're very fragile right now and need love :D

[Drarok]

Heh.
Anyone fancy a night out in Birmingham?

Or maybe someone has a better place? Brum's quite a hole.

I'm not planning to meet anyone worthwhile in a pub - how often does that actually happen? I need a nice friend of a friend bird, clearly.

[Afty]

Originally posted by drarok
As stated - very few people around here to get drunk with.

And there's NOWHERE to go around here. Well, it's a couple of weeks off, but i25 should be good for the drinking with mates bit (though pretty poor on the getting laid part). Also, Alton Towers a couple weeks after that. Now we just need to find some time to fit in a trip to a tittybar, and all would be good with the world :p

[Aardvark]

Afty merely specified 'get laid' ;)

[wolfnet]

Firstly she a bitch so wouldnt give her a second thought cos hopefully she will end up with some nasty disease and you will be better off without her.

Secondly he obviously was never a true mate and if you really licky he might catch the disease off her.

Joking asside i do know what you are going through i had a very similar experience but i had made the other step and got married before this all happened so atlease you didnt lose alot of money in the problems aswell. But from here on it can only get better i dint think i would get over my problems and when i made the split i lost my house aswell. But over time you will forget about her and will meet someone that will be alot better for you but one thing you shouldnt do is sit around feeling sorry for yourself. You gotta pick yourself up and show that you can carry on.

[Drarok]

Hmm no, I don't want disease ridden ex. Might ruin my good name!

I still love her. You don't go from 4 years of being together to feeling nothing in one weekend.

But I doubt I'd go back to her after she ****ed me around like this. She said she didn't love me anymore, that's not the kind of thing you say on a whim.

When's this i event you speak of? ;)

I might pop down, god knows I've not got much better to be doing around here.

[snowblind]

Originally posted by drarok
Heh.
Anyone fancy a night out in Birmingham?

Or maybe someone has a better place? Brum's quite a hole.

I'm not planning to meet anyone worthwhile in a pub - how often does that actually happen? I need a nice friend of a friend bird, clearly.

Too right. Brum is a damn hole.

But theres a coule of reasonable places, the carling academy mainly.

Why dont you just enjoy being single, loadsa lan parties is the answer!

note to self:@ more lan parties.

[Aardvark]

I demand an Academy trip! Find a decent gig night and its SO ON :)

[snowblind]

MPUK trip to a the academy sounds sweet. Geek it up a bit :D

[Drarok]

How about the Bloodhound Gang gig? ;)

Or Avenged Sevenfold?

Depends what you all like.

Subculture is a regular thing. I think it's every Saturday? I don't tend to go to brum much, as it's a fair trek back home afterwards. :/

[Aardvark]

Bloodhound Gang, always amusing :) And I've never heard of Avenged Sevenfold, so I'd probably think they suck... :D

But aye, if you can go see a band that Mingtea likes, you're probably in the right ballpark for my music taste :)

[Drarok]

Heh. He's seen Avenged Sevenfold before, with me.

BHG is 6th November! Hopefully I won't be single anymore by then! :cool:

Maybe just a random weekend night out?

Anyone got any good stuff down their way that might be a better bet?

[Mouse_On_Mars]

Godskitchen (http://www.godskitchen.com/homeuk.php) at Air (http://www.airbirmingham.com/).

Gogogo.

[Aardvark]

Not if you paid me a thousand pounds.

[Drarok]

Not my sorta thing, tbh.

[snowblind]

Thats a No then?

[Afty]

Originally posted by drarok
I'm not planning to meet anyone worthwhile in a pub - how often does that actually happen? I need a nice friend of a friend bird, clearly. Yeah, that would be good.... next month :)

This month, however... ;)

[Drarok]

Lonely night on the IRC and forums, it seems.

[Killy]

hell i like BHG i'd possibly be up for it, clearly it or something similar (with more drinking) needs to be organised

[Swyft]

Hot Birmingham Action anyone? :p

[Drarok]

Yeah, subculture is every Saturday at the Academy, my mate says.

Hotel action for those from farther afield?

[[TRS]Scotteh]

know how it feels m8, sucks big time, altho u eventually get over it :) doesnt really help ya atm tho :(

onwards and upwards i say :)

[Mamacita]

Originally posted by drarok
As stated - very few people around here to get drunk with.

And there's NOWHERE to go around here.

Go to AT, find a hussey, get laid - and good luck.

[Drarok]

An AT hussey? Sounds dodgy.

[her0n]

Why do you NEED a gf (or just random girl) immediately anyway? Are you trying to get back at your ex and mate or are you afraid of being single?

I think you need to ask yourself a few questions...

Lucky escape with the car btw :eek:

[Drarok]

I don't need one at all.

What I do need is stuff to take my mind off of things.

Pubbage, drunken-ness, skirt, whatever.

[Elbonio]

It must suck i am really sorry to hear about you guys breaking up.


On the other hand though surely it's better that she told you about it and was honest?

Better than them doing anything about it whilst you were still together - she can't help the way she feels and neither can he


my point is at least they were honest and she ended your relationship first


still it's not going to stop it sucking i know :rolleyes:

bad luck mate but you'll bunce back im sure :)

[Afty]

Originally posted by her0n
Why do you NEED a gf (or just random girl) immediately anyway? Are you trying to get back at your ex and mate or are you afraid of being single? An immediate GF is a bad idea, but an immediate random helps to take your mind off things, restore some no doubt lost esteem, and get you "back in the saddle" sooner rather than later. It's a good, healthy reaction to a bad break up.

[her0n]

I think it depends on the person you are really.. I'm sure it can help people get over it, but i'm sure there are many others who feel a hell of a lot worse after going for a random shag :/

[Elbonio]

Personally I would just sit back and let yourself come to terms with it

I think you'd feel worse if you did a random


but thats just me, you'd know yourself better so its whatever you feel will do you the most good.

[Mamacita]

It's proven to work for some, but yeah it totally depends on the person you are.

[Drarok]

Originally posted by afty
An immediate GF is a bad idea, but an immediate random helps to take your mind off things, restore some no doubt lost esteem, and get you "back in the saddle" sooner rather than later. It's a good, healthy reaction to a bad break up.

So true. But still, it's not my kinda thing. I'm not the flirtatious kind.

[Gunsmith]

Originally posted by snowblind
But theres a coule of reasonable places, the carling academy mainly.


you ARE taking the piss right? that place is a ****hole!

[pos]

You know my feelings on this, LIVE IT UP! have a great time, there are plenty of us here willing to get together and have a shindig in your name!
We love you so dont give up hope baby!
Make sure your booked up as much as possible....
i25
AT
BHG gig
as many random LAN parties as you can fit in!

Remember Lan's are now becoming a easy supply of easy women ;) *ahem*

[Jamz]

There are LOADs of better places in Brum, I lived there for 25 years.. Brums one of the best places to go out there ever has been.

Broad Street (not all the bars but some of them) Brindley place, The arcadian.. Carling Academy is ok for gigs but full of d!ckheads of a night.. and the place is a sh!thole...


I love (and miss) Brum for nights out Sooooo bad.. You wanna see a sh!t hole for a night out come to Stoke... *sigh*

As for your predicament mate.. Chill out have fun and keep busy it gets easier.. I've been there.. sinec met the love of my life and we're getting married next year, I couldn't be happier...

[pos]

Originally posted by afty
An immediate GF is a bad idea, but an immediate random helps to take your mind off things, restore some no doubt lost esteem, and get you "back in the saddle" sooner rather than later. It's a good, healthy reaction to a bad break up.

Deja vu?! hehe but agreed ;)

[Drarok]

I think what I need is a new hobby.
Some thing I can throw my time into.

Any suggestions?

[Mamacita]

Originally posted by pos
You know my feelings on this, LIVE IT UP! have a great time, there are plenty of us here willing to get together and have a shindig in your name!
We love you so dont give up hope baby!
Make sure your booked up as much as possible....
i25
AT
BHG gig
as many random LAN parties as you can fit in!

Remember Lan's are now becoming a easy supply of easy women ;) *ahem*

I love Sarah and the the pure *gems* she comes out with.

[Mamacita]

Take up pole dancing as exercise! :P

[Drarok]

Pole dancing? No.

LAN women - no.

[andyf]

Originally posted by Mamacita
pole dancing


mmmmm

Guess where I'm going saturday night :)

[Mamacita]

Guess? Hah! Clearly a quality establishment furnished by woman of high standing in the community.

[Drarok]

Arf, ZING!

[snowblind]

Originally posted by Gunsmith
you ARE taking the piss right? that place is a ****hole!

Compared to pretty much everywhere else in this dive its luxury hotel!

[Drarok]

Bump!

We gonna actually do anything then?

[Dan]

I demand an Academy trip! Find a decent gig night and its SO ON

My chemical romance on Nov 4th! ;)

[Killy]

Originally posted by drarok
Bump!

We gonna actually do anything then?
if you arrange it, they will come...

[LozB]

firstly sorry to hear about your accident. looking at the remains of the car u are very luck to be only slightly injured. I hope u heal with no long term probs.

on the GF & bestmate topic.

I can understand how you feel, you must be devistated. I have had similar experiences. Your feelings of betrayal on the part of your GF and mate must really cut you to the bone. TBH it may seem clinical but in a few months time when your emotions have calmed then you will look at the whole episode differently. It may not seem it now, but the repeat what a few other people have said already, its a blessing in disguise. She would have done it anyway, its just unfortunate that it was with a mate. Whilst you know who the culprit may be, its really your decision on how this is left to continue. Looking at it from the other point of view i.e. them, im sure that they are not hearless b**tards (even tho they did what they did) they will be feeling a certain degree of guilt. leave things to settle and then if you still feel angered have a chat with them both. But think before making any rash decisions.

chin up... all clouds have a silver lining. apparently...

[Boffykins]

Originally posted by Dan
My chemical romance on Nov 4th! ;) Ooooooohhhhhhhhhh. However saw them on MTV at Oxegen. Didn't look all that hot.

[SprayCan]

Originally posted by Boffbowsh
Ooooooohhhhhhhhhh. However saw them on MTV at Oxegen. Didn't look all that hot.

I'll let you know how they were when I get back from Reading.

[Boffykins]

Line-up looks good. Damn i25 getting in the way :(

[Drarok]

Originally posted by Dan
My chemical romance on Nov 4th! ;)

Errr... you missed the DECENT part in that other post then?

[SprayCan]

Originally posted by SprayCan
I'll let you know how they were when I get back from Reading.

I've decided to take a fishing catapult with me. Handy for lobbing handfuls of mud at people or bands :)

[Dan]

Errr... you missed the DECENT part in that other post then?


lol :)

[Elbonio]

Originally posted by andyf
mmmmm

Guess where I'm going saturday night :)

Manchester?


Gold dust.

[nashslash]

Answer:

Your mate sounds like a total ******, you don't need m8's like that ****.

The Bitch, well shot of if shes gunnaact like that. shoud've ditch her ages ago....

Solution: Play BF2 night and day until you forget the both of em. Get on Teamspeak and chat with real m8's. in a couple of weeks/months get yourself to Chicago's pull a ripper and get that dirt water out of ya system......

[Boffykins]

I bet you're a chav. You sound like a chav. What's a "ripper"?

[Drarok]

dirt water?!

BF what?!

[pos]

Originally posted by Boffbowsh
I bet you're a chav. You sound like a chav. What's a "ripper"?

You're so blunt arent you boff?! :p hehe I looooove it

[Boffykins]

Ok, allow me to highlight the bits that point immediately to "chav"

Originally posted by nashslash
Your mate sounds like a total ******, you don't need m8's like that ****.

The Bitch, well shot of if shes gunnaact (just like Stewie "now how you gonna act?") like that. shoud've ditch (no one says ditch do they?) her ages ago....

Solution: Play BF2 night and day until you forget the both of em. Get on Teamspeak and chat with real m8's. in a couple of weeks/months get yourself to Chicago's pull a ripper and get that dirt water out of ya system......

[Swyft]

you missed a "m8" :p